Another day another fight

You know I like to blog about things I get up to being a farmer’s wife and mother, the good, the bad and the ugly! Today I’m writing as a daughter and it’s the ugly.


A heartbroken, scared yet very appreciative daughter. Today I am up at the oncology unit in Letterkenny  Hospital holding my mum’s hand as she gets chemotherapy for what feels like the 300th time.

Mammy got diagnosed with the big C or bad one as she calls it, but to everyone else we know it as cancer. She got diagnosed following a routine check up at the beginning of last summer.

Her diagnosis broke our family’s hearts, we never imagined we’d be told Mammy was sick, but it came and like a warrior that she is, she took it on the chin, strapped on her fighting gloves and has been fighting since. As a family we appreciate everything a lot more, we appreciate family events more and make sure we take photos more often, precious memories. Thankfully mammy is doing really well, although she does feel the effects for a day or two after chemo she is keeping good.


Today was my turn to escort her to hospital and it’s my first time here with her as I was pregnant and just had Darcy, nurses advised not to come with her.
It’s an eye opener up here in the oncology ward. There is so many people sitting waiting to go in to get treatment and the nurses are flat-out. Young and old, there is no age preference, or gender preference! Cancer is everywhere and nearly everyone has somebody effected by the awful disease. It’s not nice to see anybody hooked up to a drip hoping and praying they will get better.


Is it the water? The air? Food we eat? Smoke? Drink? What is it that so many people are effected by this and why is there not a cure?  I know there is thousands, even millions spent trying to find a cure but please God hurry up. It’s so scary, so many different types affect so many people with new types forming every day.

As my mum said today to me the staff here at the hospital are angels without wings, they are so helpful and upbeat at all times. They support her with her struggle, hold her hand when she’s upset and laugh with her when she’s in the mood, which is most of the time as she’s great fun. It’s crazy hectic up here, but I can only imagine what it must be like having to travel and get treatment. Unfortunately many people from Donegal have to travel at least 3/4 hours to get their treatment in Dublin or Galway. The exhaustion must be unreal. As if the diagnosis isn’t awful enough, shame on our government. There should be more centres for cancer treatment and support.

Every appointment is different, mum could be here for 3 hours or 8 hours on treatment day. It’s like a conveyor belt system, people lined up side by side. The spirit is good though, everyone chats to each other and shares their personal story. It’s like a therapy session while you wait.

We are all so thankful mammy receives treatment, but wouldn’t be just nice not to need it. I hope and pray one day cancer will be no more but for now I’ll just pray for mum and everyone else effected to find strength to keep going, keep fighting and keep your faith.

Jade the farmer’s wife



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11 Comments Add yours

  1. Kathleen Hynes says:

    Absolutely beautiful words Jade. So heartfelt. I can feel your hurt looking at your Mum go through this. I actually didn’t know Marie was going through this. Please give her my love & tell her she always was the strongest person I know & she will knock this out of the park!
    All my love to u & the girls


    1. Thanks Kathleen i will pass on your lovely words Xx


  2. Jane says:

    All my love to you Marie your such strong lady 💗💗💗💗 kick its arse 💋


    1. Thanks Jane I’ll pass on your Love to mammy Xx


  3. Margaret Tierney says:

    Jade I am so very sorry your mum is going through this. Tell her I send my love ……her world is her “wee bairns”.. please give her a hug from me xx


    1. Thank you Margaret, I will pass on your well wishes to her, she’s doing really well Xx


  4. Sally mc Daid says:

    Sat in that unit with my husband in 2009 it’s a terrible experience n will change ur outlook on life ..good luck Marie n all ur family ..


    1. Thanks for your comment Sally, it really is a eye opener when your there Xx


  5. Linda says:

    Jade this broke my heart we see this awful disease rip through the very heart of families and it’s true that the people who are actually suffering seem to be the strongest your mum is amazing and I hope she sees that in all your faces every day Now the people in Abu Dhabi airport must think I am crazy crying into my coffee


  6. Bernie says:

    Another great read jade but hard for you all as a family , but a great insite to what your day in the life of a cancer suffer has to cope with .x xxx take care in our thoughts all the way xxxx


    1. Thanks Bernie xx


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